In coaching we talk about using power tools to help our clients reach their goals. Although many power tools are discussed, what they all have in common is the intent to break old mental, emotional, or behavioral patterns, and establish new ones.
For example, one power tool discussed in training is that of Trust vs Doubt. Many coachees start their growth process with a lot of doubt that they can have the life they truly want. We live in such a cautionary environment and have such little support for learning how to deeply trust ourselves, that doubt gets beaten into us from a very early age.
But trust is perhaps THE essential ingredient for living large -- that is, for having shining confidence needed to take the risks necessary to succeed at our goals. We must be willing to trust our instincts, judgments, perceptions, knowledge, training, and skills. And perhaps more importantly, we must be able to trust our ability to recover well from choices made with incomplete information, bad timing, or even too much trust in others' opinions and persuasion that lead to undesired outcomes.
In part, trust is developed by taking small risks and having small successes. And, trust grows by reflecting on the track record one accumulates in having recovered from less than optimal choices. But also, trust is an exercise in faith -- a belief in something unknown, unseen, or unprovable at the moment of making a trusting decision.
Trust fuels personal empowerment. The more trust you have in yourself and your ability to make things turn out better than just okay no matter what, the more empowered you truly are.
Coaching question: How will you exercise your trust in yourself today?
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